You know the most freeing thing about G+ for me is that having so many people circling me (and a very large number of people who I have circled) I feel no pressure at all to be liked or likeable. There’s always a dozen more people I can spend my time talking to.
Yes… I know… we’re all as individual and unique as delicate little snowflakes. But some of those snowflakes are douchebags.
If your first interaction with me is to make all sorts of assumptions without bothering to establish some facts, top it up with arrogant condescension to the other people in the conversation and finish it off with some passive aggressive stuff about whining. Yeah.. you’re blocked. I’m not going to let you waste any more of my limited lifespan trying to understand you or reason with you.
I don’t care that you might be brilliant or fascinating. There are lots more equally interesting people to talk to and they aren’t dicks.
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Well said.
So how are the stoned aliens from England?
Well put and very true. Luckily I haven’t really run into any douche’s yet. I guess I’m lucky.
And when you are done with the brilliant and fascinating people here, you can always look me up, too.
I was thinking about this just the other day actually. A person left a comment that puzzled me and for a second I thought that maybe I should be bothered by it. But then I realized that 99% of the folks who are “meeting” me here for the first time know so very little about me that if they happen to think ill of me, it doesn’t really matter. They have no possible way of drawing any true opinions of me because they don’t know me well so why let it bug me? So I shrugged it off and carried on.
Since I was also subject to the douchebaggery to which I believe you’re referring, I heartily celebrate both your action and the eloquent way you described it. I blocked him too, by the way.
WOW! I couldn’t agree more with your statement!
I swear I’m in the Twilight Zone with some people. I just asked a question and was called defensive. I feel the same exact way. I think a lot of people here are reaching. And not in a good way. Not for the sake of argument, not to understand. Just because some people want to be gurus with the mind that is as limited as a pickle.
Because on the internet everyone is right.
Can we blame some of this on the opening up of G+ to the public or was this a problem from the onset and the numbers weren’t in our circles to make it known then? And then again, it could just be the way everyone is transposing their daily misery, the [place your favorite wrongness] angst on each other. I wonder.
In some cases it could just be a person having a bad day I suppose.
But a lot of it reminds me of the behavior I have seen in forums, on IRC and all the way back to usenet.
Something about the internet brings out the worst in some people.
I don’t really buy the opening up of G+ as the issue either because some of the people who moan about that are pretty douchey themselves.
I think that it was a problem from the onset, +Paul Bucalo. To be truthful, anyone can be an asshole at any given point of time. I also agree with +Eoghann Irving : some people can just have a bad day. Me personally? I stay off social media when I’m irritated.
Then again, if you talk about the following, there will always be at least one person that can’t argue intelligently:
1) Religion
2) Politics
3) Ethics
Yes, I saw it as far back as the BBS days. People feel so empowered sitting in their plush fat-assed chair behind a monitor that protects them from physical responsibility to what they have said on the Web. We should all be hooked up by camera and wear address nameplates around our necks. That would curb a lot of the mouthiness. “Hey, Dude! I know where you live!”
It’s only fair for me to acknowledge that when I say I don’t like people (which I often do). I’m not joking.
I am very easily irritated by people and I have no incentive to find out if they have a good side to them.
But all I’m really asking is that they use some basic good manners. They can be as dumb as they want so long as they’re polite about it.
^THIS.
Speaking of dumb, I think +Jenn Irving needs an intervention, she’s addicted to that Ancient Alien show.… Just thought I’d give you a heads up, cause I care..,
+Eoghann Irving That’s true. God knows I’ve snarked at someone that I would never have done IRL. I’ve learned to just step away from the keyboard and leave it alone. If I’m feeling crappy, I stay off-lline.
Well, I have been working with people on a professional basis for over three decades and what I can tell you is that while you learn to feel someone out early on in meeting them in person or over the phone, without the ability to watch their body language in typical posting or to hear the inflections in their voice, it takes a lot more patience and a real desire to want to find out who someone is. I agree that we need to be polite and mature. I’ll take it any day. My experience is that (and I truly don’t mean to be crude) is that everyone is an asshole until they prove otherwise. Goes for me. Sometimes my dry wit and even sarcasm goes over wrong, wrong enough that even a dozen smiley faces in a row won’t keep me out of the dog house. I’ll apologize, take my licking and hope to be forgiven. I only ask that of those who upset me, whether on purpose or by accident. I can’t ask anything more of them and hope no one wants more than this from me.
Sadly I’m finding the level of stupid is rising, while the use of basic manners like ‘excuse me’ and ‘thank you’ fall by the wayside.
Did I miss a memo?
yes, we sent a followup, too…obviously, you did not get that either. Are you sure you have the right address on file?
I’m so bad with the forwarding and stuff.
I have found the same thing to be true. I’m sure i’ve pissed off a few people but that’s just the way it is. I’ve known plenty who have uncircled me and I just shrug it off and move on.
That is okay, this is not Facebook so most people will not to throw a hissy fit if you feel like they are no longer someone you want to be involved with. Personal relations are a different matter. I try to not to act like a douche simply because I don’t want to deal with douches myself.
Can I alway succeed? Probably not. Well, that’s life. So yes, +Eoghann Irving you are spot on with the way you handle that. I could say “like a boss” but in your cas “like a scotsman” Gle math agus slainte !