Despite my best efforts I still seem to have ended up +3 followers in the last 24…

Despite my best efforts I still seem to have ended up +3 fol­low­ers in the last 24 hours…

Let me present a list of things I don’t like:

- Inspi­ra­tional mes­sages — I find them shal­low and facile.
- The lit­eral inter­net — really peo­ple the Eng­lish lan­guage is ridicu­lously sub­tle. Learn to inter­pret please.
- Peo­ple who want to tell me every­thing in life has a mean­ing — it doesn’t and it’s pure ego that makes us want to find one
- Peo­ple who insist that every­thing can be solved just by think­ing pos­i­tively — it can’t some­times shit hap­pens, some­times you have actual prob­lems. Stop dis­miss­ing them.
- Peo­ple who think they know what it means to be a man. —  Clearly they don’t.

This list is of course in addi­tion to all the things I’ve pre­vi­ously said I don’t like. The full list would take too long.

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39 thoughts on “Despite my best efforts I still seem to have ended up +3 followers in the last 24…

  1. February 11, 2012 at 19:30

    Awe­some list, I agree with them all.

  2. February 11, 2012 at 19:31

    “- Peo­ple who insist that every­thing can be solved just by think­ing positively ”

    youre preach­ing to the choir

    i feel like i’m in 5th grade with inspi­ra­tional posters “YOUR BRAIN IS LIKE A PARACHUTE, WORKS BEST WHEN OPEN”

    I dont go on the inter­net to be moti­vated in my research

  3. February 11, 2012 at 19:33

    Every­thing in life can have mean­ing, only because humans are the only source of mean­ing– if we find mean­ing in some­thing, mean­ing is there. Mean­ing is, in the end, meaningless.

    And what makes a man? Is it the woman in his arms, just because she’s got big tit­ties? Is it the way, he fights every day? No, it’s prob­a­bly the tit­ties. NOW YOU’RE A MAN, MANLY MANLY MAN.

  4. February 11, 2012 at 19:37

    Good list! My two favorites are the “lit­eral inter­net” and “what it means to be a man.” LOL!!

    I had sev­eral con­ver­sa­tions with my son about his belief that he had “become a man” just because he had turned 18. LOL! So many dis­torted beliefs sur­round machismo!

  5. February 11, 2012 at 19:37

    I think it’s quite pos­si­ble that every­thing in life has a mean­ing, but it really depends on the dic­tio­nary you’re using.

    Not that I’m being lit­eral or anything.

  6. February 11, 2012 at 19:40

    Would you pre­fer I ‘unfol­low’ ? ;)

  7. February 11, 2012 at 20:08

    You can only allow peo­ple to be them­selves, what inspires them may not inspire you but hey live and let live. Peo­ple post crap on here that dri­ves me mad but you gotta let it fly, it’s obvi­ously sig­nif­i­cant to them or they wouldn’t post it right?

  8. February 11, 2012 at 21:35

    Would it inspire you to be more pos­i­tive if I told you I do not know what it means to be a man?

  9. February 11, 2012 at 21:48

    I am so glad I’m not the only one who doesn’t believe in the “power” of pos­i­tive think­ing, and loathe inspi­ra­tional phrases.

  10. February 11, 2012 at 21:58

    I have to dis­agree I think the world is influ­enced by the way you per­ceive it. I don’t want to get into the glass half empty con­ver­sa­tion (By the way I’m the oppor­tunist) . It has been shown that patients with pos­i­tive atti­tudes heal quicker, now that is not the only fac­tor but it is a sig­nif­i­cant one. I think you feel more pos­i­tive about the world around you if you are more pos­i­tive. But we’re not all the same so its each to their own. If other peo­ple want to post inspi­ra­tional quotes etc — all power to them if it helps them.

  11. February 11, 2012 at 22:12

    Unfor­tu­nately the power of pos­i­tive think­ing peo­ple are often rather preachy about it. One starts to feel under siege after a while.

  12. February 11, 2012 at 22:13

    One could say that of the cyn­i­cal too

  13. February 11, 2012 at 22:16

    One could, but it wouldn’t match my expe­ri­ence. The cyn­i­cal make jokes, they gen­er­ally don’t preach.

  14. February 11, 2012 at 22:19

    but we all know that jokes may be said in humour but are more than half meant. It’s not just jokes, cyn­ics post too and del­uge social media with neg­a­tivism, and it is the same expe­ri­ence of feel­ing that one is being preached at but from the other side of the coin. Cyn­ics are as ‘preachy’ as any other group. It’s just a case of tol­er­at­ing every ones views.

  15. February 11, 2012 at 22:22

    Ah well.. the nice thing about G+ is I really don’t have to tol­er­ate them if I don’t want to.

  16. February 11, 2012 at 22:24

    Seems a shame to cre­ate a sound­ing board that only sends back the sound of peo­ple agreeing.

  17. February 11, 2012 at 22:24

    +V C Wil­low I really would like to know, lin­guis­ti­cally, how cyn­ics became asso­ci­ated with neg­a­tiv­ity. The orig­i­nal cyn­ics were very sim­i­lar to stoics.

  18. February 11, 2012 at 22:24

    Inspi­ra­tional mes­sages aren’t really a form of dis­cus­sion so their absence is hardly a loss.

  19. February 11, 2012 at 22:25

    social media has cre­ated a gen­er­a­tion of cyn­ics that can eas­ily post neg­a­tivism. Move­ments change.

  20. February 11, 2012 at 22:26

    Yes but they can be and I’ve found they often are the spark for discussions

  21. February 11, 2012 at 22:29

    They are at best plat­i­tudes and worth very lit­tle. And on any occa­sion where I have pre­sented a con­trary reac­tion to them it has been poorly received.

    A waste of everyone’s time then.

  22. February 11, 2012 at 22:29

    +V C Wil­low There is no cyn­i­cal move­ment. Words change, which is what I was talk­ing about– orig­i­nally, cyn­ics were peo­ple who lived in har­mony with nature and eschewed phys­i­cal pos­ses­sions. Some­how, that phi­los­o­phy became asso­ci­ated with neg­a­tiv­ity. I’m just curi­ous about the tran­si­tion, is all. I find that stuff fascinating.

    What I also find fas­ci­nat­ing is peo­ple who say fairly tepid, but not wholly sup­port­ive things are often branded as “cyn­ics”. I find that the con­trary to your state­ment is true: social media has cre­ated a gen­er­a­tion of devoted to being mem­bers of a mutual admi­ra­tion soci­ety and any­one that doesn’t par­tic­i­pate is branded a cynic.

  23. February 11, 2012 at 22:40

    I think social media has polarised peo­ple, some fall in the mid­dle but many are either clearly believ­ers in the use of pos­i­tive thoughts and mes­sages and oth­ers are clearly cynics.

    To say that they are at best plat­i­tudes is a fairly flip­pant and dis­mis­sive reproach. Value is found in the reac­tion by the indi­vid­ual, and many peo­ple find they pro­vide clar­ity and focus, Just because you may not find them valu­able do not dis­miss them out of hand for everyone.

    I think Social media and in gen­eral the media machine has cre­ated a cyn­i­cal gen­er­a­tion that dis­trusts and is cyn­i­cal. Some cyn­ics seek the truth but my argu­ment was that some cyn­ics also seem to preach in a fairly con­sis­tently aggres­sive and neg­a­tive way. But as with all things you can not put a label on a whole com­mu­nity — vari­ety is found within any ‘group’. Don’t dis­miss all ideas of pos­i­tive think­ing or inspi­ra­tional quotes and mes­sages. If they’re not for you fine, but that does not mean that there is not value in them or that you are miss­ing out by cyn­i­cally dis­miss­ing them all.

  24. February 11, 2012 at 22:45

    +V C Wil­low Well, let’s be frank: pos­i­tive think­ing alone does noth­ing. Pos­i­tive thinking’s only value is that it can pro­vide moti­va­tion for tak­ing action. That is valu­able, but it has to be bal­anced. But there is also a cult of pos­i­tive think­ing that believes that pos­i­tive think­ing is an end in-and-of-itself. This is epit­o­mized at its worst in things like The Secret.

    The under­ly­ing prob­lem is that pos­i­tive thoughts, with or with­out results, still feel good. It’s very easy to make one­self feel good with­out actu­ally doing any­thing. Some peo­ple mas­tur­bate, some peo­ple read inspi­ra­tional quotes. In the end, it’s the same thing.

  25. February 11, 2012 at 22:46

    So if it inspires peo­ple to act and improve then it has value. Being cyn­i­cal and dis­miss­ing every­thing achieves noth­ing as a counter argument.

  26. February 11, 2012 at 22:50

    +V C Wil­low Yes, but when some­one says, “Hey, I don’t like see­ing this in my stream,” it is– shock­ingly– their stream. It’s their venue. It’s one thing to politely dis­agree, but it’s dif­fer­ent to be insult­ing. And again, let’s be frank: you meant cynic as an insult.

    I prob­a­bly wouldn’t have com­mented fur­ther at all, but I found you rude and annoying.

  27. February 11, 2012 at 22:51

    You are mak­ing the huge assump­tion that being cyn­i­cal means dis­miss­ing every­thing. That is not the case at all.

    It means look­ing beyond the surface.

  28. February 11, 2012 at 22:53

    I not infre­quently take “neg­a­tive” posi­tions on issues that I don’t par­tic­u­larly believe sim­ply because every­one else is blindly tow­ing the line.

    That one neg­a­tive voice forces peo­ple to actu­ally jus­tify what they are say­ing instead of merely spout­ing it.

  29. February 11, 2012 at 22:54

    Well I’m sorry but I have dis­agreed with your argu­ments politely and suc­cinctly main­tain­ing a con­sis­tent and intel­li­gent argu­ment, if you can find rude­ness in that then I don’t know what to say. I fun­da­men­tally dis­agree with you but I am happy to dis­cuss that. I dis­like cyn­i­cism it is my per­sonal view that as Oscar Wilde famously said ‘A cynic knows the price of every­thing and the value of noth­ing’. Scep­ti­cal, yes, crit­i­cal think­ing yes with­out a doubt but I per­son­ally dis­like cynicism.

  30. February 12, 2012 at 11:56

    Things I don’t like:

    - peo­ple who argue using “facts” they made up and don’t care to val­i­date even if it’s as easy as typ­ing “define $word” into Google.

    I’m also really glad other peo­ple don’t need a grand mean­ing to their life. I’m try­ing to sur­vive as hap­pily as I pos­si­bly can. I don’t have a grand agenda other than that.

  31. February 12, 2012 at 13:07

    http://​dic​tio​nary​.ref​er​ence​.com/​b​r​o​w​s​e​/​c​y​n​i​cal

    sub­sti­tute the words “pes­simistic” or “jaded” for her use of the word “cyn­i­cal,” and I agree with her 100%. I find so many peo­ple to be use­lessly neg­a­tive. Say what you want about a pos­i­tive men­tal out­look, I pre­fer it to deal­ing with some­one with a con­stant negat­ibe out­look, every time. +Eoghann Irv­ing , didn’t you share an arti­cle that found that peo­ple with unre­al­is­tic high opin­ions of their abil­i­ties were actu­ally more suc­cess­ful in their endeavors?

  32. February 12, 2012 at 13:21

    I don’t remem­ber the specifics now, but it was some­thing along those lines.

    I par­tic­u­larly dis­like peo­ple like that.

  33. February 12, 2012 at 13:38

    I don’t feel I’m at all a cynic, though sar­casm and satire are a cou­ple of my favorite friends.

    Being a cynic is more than just neg­a­tiv­ity– it’s hav­ing no faith in human­ity. There are rea­sons peo­ple are like this and telling them, “Chin up! Smile! Be POSITIVE!” is not going to resolve any­thing. In fact, it might be a wise idea to exam­ine the rea­sons for a cynic’s deep dis­trust and dis­gust. Either to help them become more trust­ing or to help soci­ety become more wor­thy of such trust.

  34. February 12, 2012 at 13:40

    Agree

  35. February 12, 2012 at 13:55

    But one can have a pos­i­tive out­look, while real­iz­ing that a sit­u­a­tion is bad, also. To me, neg­a­tiv­ity just seems to sap the will to fix what­ever is wrong. In other words, just telling them to be pos­i­tive may not resolve any­thing, but them actu­ally chang­ing their out­look might. Note: nowhere am I sug­gest­ing this is just as sim­ple as flip­ping a switch, nor do I claim to have an easy answer for how to do it. But I do believe that attempt­ing to cre­ate pos­i­tive changes, in your life or any­where else, with­out a pos­i­tive out­look about your chances of suc­cess is set­ting your­self up for failure.

  36. February 12, 2012 at 14:16

    I have a prob­lem see­ing trust as some­thing one can or should just change their out­look about. (Pre­tend­ing every­thing is peachy and/or chant­ing some inspi­ra­tional mantras is not going to do any­thing for the cynic’s outlook.)

    At least the way I see it, trust is the #1 thing miss­ing in a cynic. It’s def­i­nitely some­thing way beyond just being skep­ti­cal and ever ques­tion­ing the world around you, how­ever the way you are apply­ing “neg­a­tiv­ity”, it is not a syn­onym for “cynicism”.

  37. February 12, 2012 at 14:33

    Lynda, in my first post, I said if you sub­sti­tuted “pes­simism” or “jaded” for cyn­i­cism, I would agree.

  38. February 12, 2012 at 15:25

    I for­get what the orig­i­nal post said now. I applaud +Eoghann Irv­ing for real­iz­ing that respond­ing to heck­lers ben­e­fits no one. I am a cynic. I rather like the idea of liv­ing in har­mony with nature, very Thore­auish. I’d agree with +Lynda Gid­dens that lack of trust is a big com­po­nent in my actions. I think that a basis for depres­sion is neg­a­tive think­ing, how­ever, elim­i­nat­ing neg­a­tive thoughts is not the same as pos­i­tive thinking.

  39. February 13, 2012 at 14:31

    I pre­fer being called a real­ist. I have no prob­lem being pleas­ant and objec­tive even when I’m not feel­ing it, but when being dished bad news then being told to “cheer up” just feels flip­pant and hollow.

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